F31/M30 - Went on one date, which lasted a few hours. We were making good conversation, eating good food, but at the back of my mind I knew we weren't a match, (just different personalities/lifestyles; he wasn't what I was looking for.) I still tried to keep an open mind and enjoy the day.
At one point we spoke about relationship history which then led to the topic of virginity, (which felt like a bit much for a first date, but I figured we were maybe tipsy from a couple cocktails and I shouldn't take things so seriously.)
He asked me to not judge him before he disclosed something personal. I promised I wouldn't judge. Then he told me he lost his virginity at age 21 to a prostitute, because at that age he didn't know how to talk to girls. I acted unbothered, and we moved on. At the end of the date, he asked me on a second date, which I agreed to, because I felt a bit pressured face to face and figured maybe give him another chance.
But that comment actually really bothered me, and grossed me out. When it came to the day before the 2nd date, I ended up canceling, I kept it vague and said I just felt friend vibes.
Was I bad for saying I wouldn't judge him but then ended up rejecting him over something personal he shared?
I mean, from the start my gut was telling me we weren't a match, but he acted super hurt that I rejected him so quickly.
